You may meet some one at a party, social gathering, temple/church even when with family members, sometimes even for your business intraction, you are meeting that person for the first time but this first intraction develops into life-long wed-lock or friendship, why? The face and its attractive features are responsible for this. Not only that when in response to an advertisement you receive the response and get associated after an appointment either by way of letter or by Face. Here also comes the role of ‘hand-writing’ also becomes respon-sible for attracting you to that stranger.
Initially, at the first sight (face becomes more prominent) you like the other person because of the way he looks, talks, walks, dresses, dances etc. This attraction also falls under the ambit of ‘sex appeal’. Immediately, the internal ‘whisper’ instictively tells you that he is a nice guy.
Unexpressed but feeling of ‘chemistry (infatuation and sexuality) develops and you feel and take steps to meet this stranger again and this is the ‘beginning’ of lasting friendship-may be later converted to matromonial relationship or could just remain confined to simple friendship. At the same time emotional feeling you have experienced may not last long and once ‘blinders’ are taken off, you recover and restore the rational and logical behaviour to words the other person. Actually, at this stage, a real thing comes up to sustain the relationship or even break the same.
Love marriages (love at first sight or developed with the passage of time) also result in divorces, separation, litigation and so on. Why? as the foundation of the relationship was ’FACE’ alongwith emotional feeling. As in the case of normal marriage, if you are lucky the partner turns out to be kind, generous, social and sympathetic i.e. takes care of the wishes of the other person (adjusting to the behaviour). On the other hand, your partner may turn out to be stingy, miser, indifferent and the love based on ‘emotional feelings’ may fade out with the passage of time. Determining about the personality and behaviour of the person is practically impossible on first meeting or so and it may take months to know each other well and in some cases much damage is already been done by that time.
To avoid all these pitfalls, what is the answer. Astrology – the divine science and Soul of All and secondly ‘Hand-writing’ of the person concerned. During the initial intraction with the acquaintance, get the date/time of birth etc. and also samples of hand-writing (writing of love-letters or intimation / message slips are found to be common). Consult the Astrologer and/or Hand-writing Expert and after collecting complete details about the person, it may increase chances of success in romance or you may decide to break the relationship forthwith if you do not find the person as per your expectation. Apparently, this is the most inexpensive, quick and accurate method of knowing the other person.
Hand – writing should not be taken as a substitute for Astrology-the future can only be told through astrology-Accordingly – contact a person having knowledge both astrology and handwriting. Ideal analysis of a potential life partner’s and writing should be got done before engaging in serious matrimonial task.
The known proverb ‘hanging and wiving goes by destiny’ cannot be ignored. Here comes the role of Stars. Marriages are normally arranged marriages but there are ‘love’ marriages also and inter-caste marriages though in some cases persons change their birth religion for the sake of marriage. We shall talk about arranged marriages and love marriages. Parents of all-whether of the boy or of the girl, wish good marriages for their children, happy married life, acquisition of wealth and children long life etc. But on account of some reason or the other arranged marriages as well love marriages may not turn out to be successful married life i.e. the cases of divorce, separation etc. are well known. In the case of love marriage, matrimonial break after sometime has been seen i.e. especially in those cases where the attraction had been temporary. You enter into love marriage or other association just on the basis of face value when you see somebody in a club/association/function etc. and get attracted.
Marriage is necessary for all but some persons just cannot marry and I attribute this to their birth stars. In marriage, what a person needs is a good partner having all qualifies of compassion, kindness, affection and love feelings etc. and these characteristics differ from person to person. Actually these virtues make the married life a happy one. A man need a gentle, beautiful, educated devoted wife to make the home ‘comfortable’.
PITFALLS IN MARRIED LIFE – WHY
There are various factors which have been found to be responsible for making the life of the couple as ‘miserable’. Apart from personal attitude and mental balance of the native, the following are the normal circumstances, when the married life fails and troubles come to the fore for some reason or the other:
i) Bad Mahurta for marriage-Mahurta is selection of an auspicious time for marriage. If the marriage takes place in an inauspicious moment, pitfalls in married life cannot be ruled out.
ii) Non-combination i.e. non-matching of horoscopes also results in unhappiness in married life. Apart from other factors, we have ‘Raksha’ yonis and ‘Manushya’ yonis and this inter-se marriage may not do well.
iii) Lack of promise in the chart. When there is no yoga for marriage for a person and still he is married, troubles cannot be ruled out.
iv) Celebration of marriage at a wrong time. In Astrology, we have the human life of 120 years divided for various planets say Sun for 6 years, Moon for 10 years and Rahu for 18 years and so on. If the marriage takes place during the Dasha of inauspicious planet, it may not prove successful unless the birth chart of other person neutralises some of the defects. Untimely marriage.
v) Quarrelsome nature of the wife or husband i.e. finding faults with each other.
vi) Wife or husband coming under the influence of other relatives/friends and parents. The cases of wife getting her husband killed, husband getting her wife killed are well known from personal experience and paper reports. You may recall the case of Savita Girotra who got her husband murdered within 52 days of marriage through her Parmour Guru-Swami. Apart from mental imbalance, the hypnotism by swami cannot be ruled out. The other extreme case is of Naina Sahni’s murder case Tandoor Case. I need not give you more examples.
vii) Purposeful marriage to covet the worth of the other person either of the husband or of the wife. Some parents marry their daughters to a particular rich boy so that the property gets to their daughter in due course of time.
viii) Husband or wife getting to social clubs/political parties/gambling etc. without the consent of each other. Late – arrivals of the husbands is not tolerated by some of the wives especially when they are house – wives. I know a case of grocer who used to open his shop early at about 6.30 A.M. to 7.00 A.M. to sell the morning items of Bread, eggs etc. But after marriage, his wife persuaded him to open the shop at 9.00 A.M. and he has accepted.
ix) Behavior of the person – husband or wife is equally important. One may create for the other unwanted troubles by ‘irksome’ behavior which may differ from person to person.
x) Denial of marital bliss – denying the sex on some excuse or the other.
xi) Career minded women may not pay the desired attention to the husband and his welfare.
xii) Concealment of vital facts from each other i.e. going somewhere else but telling a lie.
xiii) Indifference attitude towards the parents of the partner as well as their quests.
xiv) False accusation especially by the girl and her parents for demanding more dowry and lodging of false complaints to covet some property etc.
It may also be mentioned that the weak Moon in the 7th house of a horoscope is capable of giving depression and sickness and mental troubles from the spouse. On the other hand strong Moon in the 7th house can give happiness and prosperity and harmonious life. Mars in the 7th house can give troubles in married life and depended on its strength it can create circumstances for two wives. Be that as it may, such principles need to be applied by the astrologers carefully and ‘well guided pronouncement’ need to be made by the astrologers to make the home happy and comfortable.
CONCLUSIONS
Most of the pitfalls in married life can be avoided by adjustments, by following the advice of senior, by following proper astrological advice at the time of marriage. With regard to adjustment, I can say that husband may perform all duties including in the kitchen, in the other case, the wife had put a condition that she will not cook the food. Now, when no servant is there, the food comes from restaurant/hotel.
Little devotion to God proves very beneficial. Try to cultivate good habits (Good sanskars) among the children and in may opinion they have to be kept from various T.V. scenes so that there is no deviation. God is one for all irrespective of the religions one is following – Spare few minutes and remember him – the way you want.
In case of any defect including sexual incompetence need to be treated by the Doctor. Similarly, the cases of children should be settled amicably and leaving to the will of God. All these problems would differ from person to person.